When your story is written 160 years before if happens

 https://youtu.be/uy7ZRRDkWw4?si=mXc3jNyaqFzQhc7S Listen to Tchaikovsky, Pyotr Ilyich: The Seasons, Op. 37a No. 6 June "Barcarolle"

17 years after the events in my life happened, I've red Feodor Dostoyevsky's White Nights and realised a number of similarities to my own experiences:

1 main character outright describes himself as a dreamer. I was a dreamer, both in my own head and by any independent view of my thoughts at the time

2 main male character meets the main female character Nastenka on the anniversary of 1 year of her love story. I first talked to mine on her 2 year anniversary of her love story. 

3 Both myself and the main character were warned about falling in love with the main female character. Ok, I wasn't forbidden to do that, but close enough 

4 In both stories the main female character gets very excited on the sight of her original love interest to the point of completely loosing sight of the other person by their side (this one was the trigger for me to write this)

5 in the end, both myself  and the main character are valued for their friendship not for their romantic love