Relationship literacy, how do you go about increasing it?

 

If the youtube link fails, listen to Pink-Just give me a reason

I suppose this is a folow up of this post https://howtobeinadultrelationships.blogspot.com/2025/12/elements-of-psychology-should-be-taught.html

Even if you know a bit about psychology, that one usually focuses on a single person and ther traits and problems in relation with the enviroment around them, not necessarily about how people behave when in a romantic relationship (or an amicable one for that). Imagine how cool would be to teach teenagers that in highschool? But we don't (or at least not anywhere that  know of we don't). So how do we learn about how to behave in a relationship? Obviously, for those lucky enough to have them, from watching our parents. Sometimes I get scared myself on how much I mirror my father's behaviour towards my mother , probably because I'm looking at the "bad habits" but now that I actively investigate  it, I suppose I'm also replicating some of the good ones. 

    On the other hand, here I am at about half my life span , having spent a quarter of that in a relationship and I'm only now learning about the mechanisms that make it work and how different we are as men and women (And I'm not talking about mars and venus). 

    Ok, probably you want some example of what I'm talking about. The one I most resonate with is that in a crisis/stressfull situation men tend to ruminate, stop and think, annalyse outcomes for each possible solution while women tend to comunicate, talk, request extra info, seek opinions. Apparently that's why they evacuate women and children first so men can think of a solution in peace and quite . But sarcasm aside, it has been my experience that my father did just that and I tend to do the same, while our significant others verbalised their worries, seeked reassuance or advice. 

I'd love to have some academic resources on that, but intsagram seems to be showing some relevant content in that direction.